What I’d Wish I’d Known

Ten Tips Now for Then
by Ken Goldstein

About a year ago I was asked to give a talk to a group of high school seniors with aspirations to pursue entrepreneurial careers.  I though at length about when I could tell a bunch of young men and women who hadn’t even left home yet, in a voice they might actually hear and not ignore.

The path I picked was a series of tidbits that I wish I had known at their age, that might have made the next thirty years a bit easier to navigate.  My thinking was that if they only remembered one of the ten for even the next few years of their lives, the talk would have been successful.  I invited them to contact me any time and let me know how it was going, and a few have been in touch.

I thought I would d share the summary of the those ten tidbits here, and then over the next few weeks riff on each with a bit of cake under the frosting.  Understand that these have been borrowed and adapted, cut and pasted from friends, writers, bosses, and colleagues over the years, so if you smell poetic theft, you smell correctly.  I promise attribution as best I can in the follow-on entries.  These are not necessarily in order of importance, but emotional resonance at this particular moment in time.

1) The most important career decision we make is who we choose as a life partner.

2) Talent is precious — and rare — revere it!

3) The world is filled with 90 percenters — a.k.a. good enough is not good.

4) Networking is not going to parties — it’s helping as many people as we can as often as we can.

5) Investing is not the same as speculating.

6) A plan is something you have,  until you get hit.

7) Our greatest strength are our greatest weaknesses.

8) The harder you work, the luckier you get.

9) Tell people what you are going to do, then do it.

10) The journey is the reward — it will take longer, cost more, and return less than you think, so you better enjoy it.

Stay tuned for a more detail on each individual theme…

Yes, Please, Try: Think Different

From Stanford University — June 12, 2005:

“Commencement Address” by Steve Jobs

You can never read this one too many times.  With the release of the iPad2 this week — yep, I’m getting me mine, a b-day gift from my incredible wife, as soon as they are back in stock my gift card gets redeemed — I came back for another re-read of Steve’s masterpiece.

Here’s the part that sticks with me, following the theme of my Peter Schneider post from a few days ago where he talks about Krakauer and just how the wheels are usually chewed off the wagon in little bits, not a big bite:

“… you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards.  So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”

This is the inverse of Krakauer, which illustrates how a big bang goes bust with a boatload of paper cuts we don’t even feel.  In Jobs’ application, it’s the good that happens when you don’t even know that you are building to it.  The true irony is, with each setback comes opportunity, and with each adverse circumstance, an opportunity for triumph awaits.  This is not rhetoric, it is the reality of creative destruction.  The new grows of necessity, because in the negative there is learning, and in learning there is reward.

Do what you love, reinvent frequently, don’t get comfortable, don’t take yourself overly seriously.  That’s where iPads come from.  Great friendships, too.  And all the memories that make our time together unique, valued, magical.  That time is brief, but our potential unlimited.

Belief and Perspective Are Highly Nuanced

From The Good Men Project — January 3, 2011:

“Men, Faith, and Goodness” by Tom Matlack

Not an easy topic, which is why it produced so many different points of view.

Perhaps the underlying message is that enlightenment is more about understanding the spectrum of opinions and belief sets that surround us than latching on to any single act of judgment. We have to learn from others if we want dialogue to be real and produce shared outcomes.

Any purely strident point of view is as unlikely to be changed as it is entirely correct.

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How to Get a Goose Out of a Bottle

Excerpt by Barry Magid
Ordinary Mind Zendo

The Goose in the Bottle

This koan has lasted me a lifetime.  Every time I think I understand it I have to go back and rethink it.  It’s not a riddle, which is why it can’t really be solved.  It is not even really a problem, it is simply a question, and it does have an answer, but the answer is not likely to resonate unless you change the way you think about what is being asked.